Tejas Jog

First of all, its hard enough for us to remove ourselves from a state of inertia and try out something new. We tend to get comfortable very easily and don't really make any effort for change as long as the going is good. Its only when things don't really go our way that we tend to sit up and take notice of opportunities suitable for us. Our approach to Decision Making tends to be more reactive than proactive most of the time. Of course there are individuals who plot their path in life, personally and professionally, well in advance and take every effort to follow through with their plans. Most of us however strive passively towards achieving something. We always hope everything works out as we expected. And sometimes it does. But often this achievement is somehow tainted. In a seemingly cruel twist of fate, we either don't want this anymore or worse still, even if we do want it we have to give it up. Life just doesn't seem fair. And I know we've all heard that one ...

... Because It Might Just Come True !!! Life is strange. It has you running after things which you're not even sure you want. And if you do want them you're not sure why. What you want, may clearly be something which is not best for you. The question is when do you realize this? All through our life, and more consciously in our adult life, we chase after people or things which we seem to want in our lives. It could be someone who make us feel good about ourselves or someone we like spending time with. It could be a variety of personal or professional goals. It could be ambition, money, power or anything else. And why do we run after these things? It could be because we feel that attaining that something might give us a sense of security; increase our self-worth; make us feel good inside. What we should realize is that our desires are only a "means" to get to an "end" which we really want. Many times we get into the herd mentality and start pursuing things on...

I know you're thinking 'Charles Dickens'. But not this time. This is different. We go through life and cross paths with multitudes of people. People we're related to, neighbours, friends from school/college, colleagues/friends from our work place, etc. But surprisingly, only some of these make a meaningful impact on us. We are, more often than not, drawn to people for a couple of reasons: one being that they make us feel good about ourselves, cared for and/or protected; and two because they have something which we admire or appreciate or want to emulate. When it comes to having expectations from people in our life, we generally think of attention and affection (which easily come to mind) and respect (which is more subtle and non-explict). Many times we are upset because people don't live upto our expectations. But the first thing to understand is that in any relationship or rather in most relationships expectations are never really formalized or documented. And its ...