17 May 2007

Be Careful What You Wish For ...

... Because It Might Just Come True !!!

Life is strange. It has you running after things which you're not even sure you want. And if you do want them you're not sure why.

What you want, may clearly be something which is not best for you. The question is when do you realize this?

All through our life, and more consciously in our adult life, we chase after people or things which we seem to want in our lives.

It could be someone who make us feel good about ourselves or someone we like spending time with. It could be a variety of personal or professional goals. It could be ambition, money, power or anything else.

And why do we run after these things? It could be because we feel that attaining that something might give us a sense of security; increase our self-worth; make us feel good inside.

What we should realize is that our desires are only a "means" to get to an "end" which we really want.

Many times we get into the herd mentality and start pursuing things only because someone else is also doing the same. Our siblings, friends or colleagues. They may or may not be clear on why they want something. But you certainly are unclear as to why you're running behind this. And you may not even realize it.

One of the hardest things to do in life is to figure out what you really want. I envy people who really know where they are and where they want to be.

All things considered, many times in life you even get these things which you so desire. And then you don't know what to do.

You've possibly spent a lot of time and energy trying to attain something. And when finally you do, you somehow don't feel the joy or satisfaction you were expecting. Something feels amiss. You keep wondering why you're feeling this way. I mean you got what you wanted you should be thrilled. But you're not. And this is not a good feeling at all.

This leads us back to the basic question of whether we really know what we want and whether we really want what we're running after.


Pushkar said...

TJ - I knew that you had a flair for writing - am glad you have started a blog to pen your thoughts.

G. said...

Interesting 'thoughts'... :)

Nj said...

Nice thoughts!
I think chasing dreams and wishes is important no matter how petty they might be to keep us inspired and happy in this material (and meaningless upon realization)life.
Desires, habits, needs get greedier as the time goes on and there is need to add-on to your seemingly fulfilled wishes sooner or later.

Ashish said...

Quote from Greek ancient texts

“Seek not that the things which happen should happen as you wish; but wish the things which happen to be as they are, and you will have a tranquil flow of life”

Harshal said...

Nicely written. Life has no purpose at all. If you understand the meaning of this intensely you'd automatically move towards things you really want. The clutter that the human brain has will just vanish.

Sagar said...

Most philosophies of life can be broken into two distinct types a) Goal oriented and b)process oriented.

The former is more prevalent, mostly because that is how our surroundings/peers expect us to be. And we unconsciously try to fulfil what is expected of us. In a goal oriented philosophy, one runs from/after one goal to another..uner the impressions that once the goal is attained, the 'feel-good' feelings will follow. This is rarely the cae, but realizing this is rarer still.

It takes time and thinking to adopt the 'process oriented' lifestyle. Goals are important, but the road you walk to get there is more important. In a process oriented life, you'd enjoy the act of reaching a goal as much or more than the goal. This generally works towards making you a happier person..because you are not chasing goals (important or otherwise). Reflect back to a time when you really enjoyed what you were doing and gave 100% and then some more. By the time the process is over and you know that you have done your absolute best, the end result doesn't matter any more. You've done your best and that makes you happy :)

Shirish said...

hey TJ...didn't know u started a blog! are you planning to publish those reams of writings at Asia Plateau?